as salam. 🙂
dear self, Mun & other friends,
please bear this in mind :
it is easy to “visualize success” & to “think positively”. it is not so easy to throw yourself into the unknown & make it work. but if u can make it work, u will gain far more than u can imagine. there is no shortcut. 🙂 #thisiswhatialwaysthink
1. start a business
many of us, who have been self-employed almost all their life, used to tell out there that “Only jerks work for jerks.” working for someone else puts u at their mercy and subjects u to their whims & often their poor management skills. not only that, but the profit of your labor goes into their pockets.
starting a business puts u in control of your work life & your money. it is not hard, but quite hard — small businesses fail every day. but the rewards of even a failed venture can far outweigh the risk. just knowing that your failure was the result of your own choices instead of a decision made at a corporate office a thousand miles away can be liberating.
2. organize a group
what makes us passionate? chances are, being around other people who are passionate about the same thing would make u even more passionate about it. often the only thing keeping them from coming together is that nobody is put out a sign saying “Come & talk!”. getting a group going is a tremendous challenge & very often the personality of the founder leaves a tremendous mark on the group as a whole. seeing a group grow & take off can be tremendously awarding but even failing can teach u important things about leadership.
i dont mean spend thanksgiving at a soup kitchen, though that can often be challenging enough. what i mean, though is to make a long-term investment in your community by joining school committees, donating three hours a week in a shelter, hosting a monthly read-along at the library, tutoring at-risk children after school, teaching adult literacy classes at a local prison, or any of a million ways to play a role in the lives of people who need you. perhaps the most pressing need in our society is for people to take an interest in & engage with their communities.
4. take an active role in your children’s’ activities
pick one thing your child does and commit yourself to it. coach their team, become a leader, spend a weekend day in the workshop with them, buy a bike & ride along with them. make their passions your own. dont crowd them especially if u have teenagers. but show them that u value something they do by giving them your time & interest.
5. start a family
I don’t mean have kids. That can be all too easy! Make the decision to have a family, which means to give of yourself fully to another person or several people. Risk being vulnerable by sharing your fears, quirks, and failures with someone else; you might find it makes you stronger than ever before.
This transcends marriage and parenthood. There are lots of people who can’t marry because the law prevents it. There are people who can’t have children. These are not the essential ingredients of family. The essential ingredients are love, mutual respect, trust, and open giving. Find (or make) someone you can share that with.
6. write a book
it feels really, really good to see your name on a book cover, but it feels even better to know that someone, somewhere, might find his/her life changed by something u have written. share your particular expertise, whether it’s story-telling/woodworking, with the world @ just your family. time is not the big issue (though it is an issue — dont let the positive thinkists tell u otherwise). but if u commit yourself to a page a day, a couple hundred words, within a year u will have a pretty decent-sized manuscript. that is something to work with.
7. learn an art
take painting lessons, a pottery workshop, a music class, whatever. learn to express yourself & u might find a self worth expressing. dont settle for being a “Sunday painter”. devote yourself to an art & master it.
8. run for office
the world needs smart, dedicated, & upright people to take care of all the fiddly details of making things run. as it happens, running for local office isn’t as challenging as u did think (which isn’t to say it’s easy). run for the experience of putting your community on a better path, and not for the power.
9. take up a sport
enough with the working out already. sure, u want to be healthy, but the whole treadmill-running, iPod-listening, 45-minutes-after-work thing is a little anti-social, don’t you think? Hokay, u want some solitude once in a while?it is fine. but at least add a sport, something you do with other people. u will be spending time interacting with others, while also developing team-building & leadership skills. & u might learn something from your fellow players.
10. set an outrageous goal & achieve it
9 tips above are handful of ideas about how to make your life better. maybe u want to record an album, climb a mountain, make the Hajj (the pilgrimage to Mecca), see 20 countries. dont just settle for tiny goals, push yourself all the way to the edge and figure out how to make the craziest thing u can think of happen. yes, u will have to learn a lot along the way & plan months/years in advance.
-some modifications- (original source from Dustin M. Waxi)